Surrogate Tapping

In this short video, EFT Master Practitioner and certifying instructor Deborah Lindsey offers an interesting and unique new approach to surrogate tapping. Check it out and let us know what you think!


Transcript of Surrogate Tapping with EFT

Hey, guys, it’s Deborah Lindsey and I wanted to take a minute and offer you some tips for professional EFT practitioners today, so I’ve been thinking a lot and using a lot of surrogate tapping lately. And sometimes I just forget how incredibly powerful surrogate tapping can be. Here’s something for you as professional practitioners to consider. There are more than one person and more than one perspective and more than one energy involved in most of these experiences that people are having. Right.

So what you’re dealing with is one person’s perspective, but energetically all of those people are involved in that experience. So try this. Try tapping with your client on every perspective in the experience. OK, so for instance, I have a client that I’m working with right now who his girlfriend abandoned him, broke up with him during a really tough time. It’s eight years later. He hasn’t been able to stop thinking about it. So here’s what we do

We tap on it from his perspective. Right. And then we go in and we surrogate tap on her. Right. So he is the surrogate. And as that surrogate, he now has to experience it from her perspective. He essentially steps into her energy, steps into her story, and he becomes the carrier for her story. In so doing, he now has to see it from both perspectives. It’s phenomenally powerful. Now, if you’re doing this for a whole family, for example, so you have a trauma that happened when you were young, somebody did something or whatever.

You go in and you tap on it from every single person in the family’s perspective, it’s really, really powerful. Don’t forget to use forgiveness in these experiences. So in your in your reminder phrase, bring in forgiveness. You’ve got to get it in there. OK, bu surrogate tapping for everybody inside of a situation has a way of reframing it in a very powerful way. We also don’t know about the wide but range of wide but implications of having tapped on all these different people.

So it’s just a little tip for the professionals out there today. Experience and experiment with surrogate tapping for everybody in the situation. See what happens. Hope it helps.


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  1. Mary Jane Bartels says:

    Hi Deb, awesome aspect of EFT!! I can see how this can be.very helpful! Thanks.Blessings.

  2. Jenny Li Ciccone says:

    Thank you, Deborah,
    It’s been a while. I can see this one is really powerful. Will definitely try to my clients.
    Appreciate you.

  3. Patricia Calabrese says:

    Wow, Deborah! WOW!!!!

  4. Barbara Stewart says:

    Deborah, thank you! This multi-faceted application of surrogate tapping is one I have not considered. I can only imagine the compassion that results from processing a traumatic experience from another participant’s perspective. That, in itself, would lead to more profound healing in the client, and just as there is evidence that praying positively affects the subject of the prayer, it is only logical to opine that this process would also result in healing in the other participant(s). .Thank you!

  5. Nancy Lindgren says:

    Love this idea! I’d never thought of using surrogate tapping in this way. I’d thought of it more as surrogat tapping for someone else who was sick or in pain. Can’t wait to try it.

  6. Ruth McKay says:

    Thank you, Deborah, for this tip. I had already found the addition of forgiveness to be powerful and effective, but this takes it even deeper.

  7. Absolutely! I can attest to this as Deborah did this for me in our session during my training. It really works.

  8. Deborah Lindsey says:

    Thanks, everyone! I’m sorry I’m late reviewing my blog. I am grateful for all of your comments. I feel loved and supported by my wonderful students. Thank you!

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