EFT Tapping for shame is one of the most powerful things we can do to get ourselves and keep ourselves healthy. Understanding the nature of shame and its role in healing is crucial for those who work as professional EFT practitioners. In this short video, EFT Master Practitioner and Certifying Instructor Deborah Lindsey offers insight on the nature of shame in healing and how understanding that can help take your practice to the next level.
Hey, guys, it’s Deborah Lindsey with Online EFT Certification. I want to talk to you today a little bit about some professional tips on dealing with shame. So here’s the thing about shame. If you look at Dr. David Hawkins scale of emotions or if you look even at the work from Abraham Hicks, you’re going to find that shame is is the lowest frequency of all of the emotions that’s out there. It’s the most painful experience for anyone to have is the experience of shame.
So if if you watch kids, kids will make their decisions all about the avoidance of shame. So as a parent, you know, what you need to do is give them the opportunity to experience what they’re experiencing without feeling shame, because shame gets stuck in the energy system. Right. And and it has a lot of authority in there. If you are ashamed of something, you don’t talk about it with your friends. And we all know that you’re only as sick as your secrets.
So those things that get stored in there, those things that you can never look at or talk about, those are the things that are the most likely to be present when somebody is sick, especially if you’ve got somebody with really chronic pain. They’ve got shame stuck in there somewhere. And your job is to go in there and find that shame and help them to bring it out. But how do you do that without really traumatizing? And how do you do that without being their face about it?
Right. Because people don’t naturally talk to you about things they’re ashamed of. In fact, the exact opposite. They’re going to walk out the door without having ever revealed to you what they’re really ashamed about. So your job is to find ways to be completely nonjudgmental at all times.
They have to be able to trust that when they talk to you about those issues, you are going to be able to look at it without blinking, without so much as one flicker of judgment in your eyes. Instead, you can only look at them with love, with compassion, with kindness, and with the desire to help them get through it. So part of your work as a practitioner is to be looking for the clues of where that shame lies and to find ways to gently get your way in there and give them permission to bring it out.
Now, of course, you’ve got to this trauma. Of course, you’ve got the gentle techniques that are going to help you to actually get it out of there so that they can feel free to talk about it. But your role as a practitioner gives them room to do that and to do it in a completely non-judgmental way at all times. OK, I hope that helps.