Watch and listen as Master Instructor and Certifying EFT Practitioner Deborah Lindsey explains what is the difference between Talk and Tap, Tap and Rant, and Tell the Story Technique?
Transcript:Talk and Tap, Tap and Rant, Tell the Story
Hey, guys, I have a couple of little techniques that I want to sort of break down and explain the differences to you, and there’s three different techniques that you’re going to use consistently in your practice. One is what I call tap and talk. One is tap and rant, and the other is tell the story, so you’re going to use them consistently and I think there’s some value in understanding what they are and the differences between them and how to use them.
So the first one, Tap and talk, you’re going to use a lot. So basically what happens? Someone comes in and they’re just talking, talking, talking about everything going on. So in that case, you just go listen. But let’s just tap while you talk. So in that case, they’re not necessarily talking about anything specific and it’s just sort of what happened in their day or what they’re thinking about that’s causing them some stress and just tapping a lot of talking so you can go back afterwards because they’re going to reveal some things that might be having larger stress issues.
And if that’s the case, pick out those pieces and go back and then explore them more. So the next one is tap and rant. So tap and rant is where someone’s really sort of stuck on something and they’re going over and over and over and over it in their mind, so often this has to do with an underlying anger, frustration or powerlessness. So in that case, it’s basically the same exact thing, except that you are now going to kind of go to them on, so they are ranting and ranting and ranting, and then you just sort of get in there and do your best to sort of bring out the most in that emotion.
As long as you don’t re traumatize and let them rant and rant, rant. This tends to be about a specific issue that’s not kept and talk is really sort of general. What’s going on in my day has been read usually about a specific issue about which they are upset and feeling powerless. So the third one, of course, is tell the story. So tell the story is usually related more to a specific memory or a specific incident. So someone saw something happen.
So, for instance, an example would be someone sees their son get hit by a car. OK, so it has a specific time frame is a specific incident. It can usually be encapsulated in about a 30 minute spending, a three minute time frame. Sometimes it’s a little longer, sometimes it’s a little shorter, but it’s now a specific incident. So we’re doing, for example, a mother watching her son get hit by a car. So you go to the minute before or two minutes before it happened.
And when everything is normal and there’s no indication of a trauma about to happen and you start there, it’s useful to get a sense and then you have them tell the story and there’s going to be a moment when there’s some indication that things bad are about to happen. So in this case, for instance, it might be that the mother sees a car coming. And so that moment she’s going to see the car coming and now you’re going to start to feel some tension in her.
OK, so you’re going to stop them that you’re going to tap on seeing the car. Not feeling good about the car right now. The car’s coming. The car’s coming. The car is coming. Because at this moment, there’s an alertness. Now, her nervous system is on high gear, high speed, and it feels something coming even though she doesn’t necessarily know what. Right. So that’s an individual piece of it. Now, is that that sort